Team Remy or Team Vanessa....that is the question

Team Remy!!!! That's it. Case closed.

For those of you who know, you know. And for those of you who don't, I'm talking about the cliff hanger in which season 1 of Brothers With No Game ended. Who should Junior choose? His girlfriend of 10 years Vanessa, who left him to pursue a career in the states or the new woman in his life, Remy, who has accepted Junior for who he is now.



Arguably one of the best UK web series out there, BWNG follows the ups and downs of 4 friends, Junior(Issac Sosanya@izzyboy101), Marcus (David Avery@David_Avery_), Dorian (Zephryn Taitte@theactorsdiary) and Theo (Jay Marsh @JayNovellMarsh) as they deal with life, love and women. The show has been adapted from the blog of the same name (www.brotherswithnogame.com) by four anonymous friends known as
The Yak (@TheYakBWNG)
Don Kwelu (@DonKweluBWNG)
Maverick (@MaverickBWNG)
and Justin Credible (@JCBWNG)
(you have got to love the aliases).

They deliver insightful, informative and unique articles which give us an insight into how the men of today view the dynamic state of the modern relationships. I'm such a fan of the blog. What I love about it is that their intent isn't to provide a 'we can fix-it' remedy to any particular situation. Rather try to explain how they see it and allow you to make your own judgement. Sometimes you may not agree with what they say but they say it anyway.

Back to cliffhanger. I may be coming through a little biased on my support for Remy. But its not my fault. She is a woman after my own heart. From time Remy slapped the pittance change out of junior's hand after the disastrous date, she had me on her team. I'm not one to quote song lyrics but in the words of Drake...

'started from the bottom now we here...'

That is Junior and Remy. Their start was not the best of beginnings. After being set up for a date and he arrives at her place to accompany her via a bus to their first date! By bus you know. Then he then tried to suggest Nando's as the venue for their date meal and if that wasn't bad enough, Junior has no funds to cover the bill?? Come on man! (watch episode 4: Recession Dating) That is the biggest no no ever! If that's not the bottom then I don't know what is. That being said rather than slating him after the complete travesty of the first date, she got over it and they moved on. She liked Junior for the person he is even in his jobless state. That is something not a lot of people (men and women) are able to do.

But there are other reasons which I think Junior needs to consider when deciding that he should be with Remy

1. Vanessa left him and went to the states.
Years and years in a 'great' relationship. Vanessa then gets a great opportunity in her career abroad. It's definitely something she cannot pass up which I completely understand (I would have gone too if truth be told). So they came to a cross road. Love or career. She chose her career over the man she loved when she decided to leave. Which bring me to my next point

2. Why didn't Junior go with Vanessa?
He was all for the move when the idea was presented to him. What was holding him back from making that move with the woman he loved? As great as everything seemed on the surface and Junior was not ready to make that commitment with Vanessa. Leaving all he knew, friends, family, work, to go to unfamiliar shores was something he was unable to do. Commitment issues methinks...

3. Is Junior the same person he was?
I don't think Junior is the same person he was while he was with Vanessa. Surviving heartache break and dealing with job loss is enough to change anyone's out look on life. The relationship ended and Vanessa wants to pick up where they left off? Really?? Just like that?? With Remy in the picture, Junior is moving in a new direction and taking a new outlook on life. Why go backwards? I understand that there is history there but if she left once, what is stopping her from leaving again?

Regardless of which side you are on, this show was brought to life by the amazing cast. As well as the guys mentioned above, the girls do their thing in bringing the show to life. Remy (Ashley Bannerman @AshleyBannerman),Vanessa (Nemide May @MsNeMay), Simone (Dani Moseley @Dani_Moseley) and Lisa (Natalie Duvall @natsduv) to name a few. All bringing their unique spins to the show.

BWNG has to have a season two especially after an amazing first season which has had such great response on a UK and an international level. We need to support our talent and allow this good viewing to continue. Not only because they are amazing but more importantly the Remy v Vanessa cliffhanger is killing me out here. I need to know what happens. For this to happen BWNG need our support. Please to donate towards the cause so I get to see what happens. I feel so invested in the story that I feel I need to be written into the show as Junior's glamorous, successful and smarter younger sister who comes down to visit him from finishing a year abroad in Paris and loving advises his to follow his heart and make the right choice *cough* Remy *cough*. I think I need to brush up on my french...

mesdames et messieurs, nous devons realiser ce spectacle...voter pour Team Remy!!!
(hope that makes sense lol)

Please donate via Indiegogo indiegogo.com

I've put in my 2 cents, will you?

Watch the web series to see what you are contributing to on their YouTube channel and you can decide for yourself who's team you are on
www.youtube.com/BrothersWithNoGame Or follow them on Twitter @TheBWNG


Until next time....

Stay MsChiVious

Valentine's Day blues...

Now that we are in March Diva's and gentlemen, good amount cooling of time has passed and I can safely say I have survived the dreaded Feb 14th. Honestly there are people still reeling from it's effect even now that we are in March. For some coming through the other side emotionally and financially unscathed was a cause for celebration at the weekend that followed. Couple ending relationships before the 13th and conveniently getting back together on the 16th to a weekend full of 'making up time' shows the lengths people are going to avoid Val Day. The attitudes towards Val Day would lead you to believe having a day to show someone you love and care about them is a bad thing. What’s wrong with having a day to celebrate the mystery that is love?!

I have to say I have never ever been a fan of Val Day, single or otherwise. The hype from people (mainly from the females), the media and so on turns the day into such a spectacle. For those who are single you are made to feel bad for not having someone to share the day with, and for those who are in relationships there is pressure to make sure you don't forget and to please their partner with extravagant gestures. Well to be honest, really and truly the pressure is on the guy to deliver. Poor guys. You do have my sympathy...

(I can't lie, I laughed when I saw this picture)

At the end of the day, any actions taken to celebrate Val Day are all for one purpose. Getting access to the cookie in the cookie jar. Simple. Everyone wants to get laid!!!!! Why bother going through all the effect of setting up a romantic day for the same reward you have received the day before? My Mumzy used to say when I was young,

"We shouldn't give to receive, but give out of happiness to make others we love happy"

With the amount of moaning I heard from certain friends, colleagues and twitter, Mumzy it looks like it doesn't apply anymore. Seeing a look of shock, surprise and joy from your partner recognising your efforts is no longer sufficient reward to justify the effort.

Once upon a time I used to be of thinking

‘every day should be Valentine’s day. I don’t need a special day to show you that I care’

which is true. In reality, how many of you actually treat each day like its Val day? Especially with Val Day having to be the an extravagant affair of affection and treats. Or a better question is how many of you would actually have the time to do so? I personally think it’s exhausting trying to think of new and wonderful ways to show your love all the time. And once you have done them all, what’s next?

I think a better way to look at this is to treat each day like Val Day in the sense you give little gestures to show your other half how special they are without being expected to. It doesn't have to be big things, that would be exhausting. It's the little things that count and its the little things when done at the right time which are always remembered.

I will reiterate again, really making an effort in your daily relationship is the way forward. For those of who are shocked at this statement, it's true. The more effort you make during the year, the less you have to actually do on Val Day. In fact fellas if you make the right amount of effort daily, Val Day becomes all about you. She would use that as an opportunity to reward you for your efforts. The guys who have to go all out are those who don't step up in the relationship during the year. Val Day becomes the day you make up for your slacking, hence the big gestures being expected.

Special provisions are already in place for anniversaries, b’days and Christmas. They are there to celebrate the beginnings and continuance of important events. Anniversaries celebrate when the relationship started and its continuance, Christmas covers Jesus's birthday and your birthday covers your life. That’s standard. Trust me it's in the bible somewhere...

"And the Lord said 'Thou shalt not forget anniversaries, the birth of your wife lest he feel her wrath..." And we all know the saying about a woman scorned...

Of course this does not apply to everyone. Most of you out there put in the required effort to make the other half happy.On the flip side, if they don't appreciate it, then boi...you need to have a good long look at your at your situation because that's not cool.

Until next time

Stay MsChiVious