I have to say I have never ever been a fan of Val Day, single or otherwise. The hype from people (mainly from the females), the media and so on turns the day into such a spectacle. For those who are single you are made to feel bad for not having someone to share the day with, and for those who are in relationships there is pressure to make sure you don't forget and to please their partner with extravagant gestures. Well to be honest, really and truly the pressure is on the guy to deliver. Poor guys. You do have my sympathy...
(I can't lie, I laughed when I saw this picture)
At the end of the day, any actions taken to celebrate Val Day are all for one purpose. Getting access to the cookie in the cookie jar. Simple. Everyone wants to get laid!!!!! Why bother going through all the effect of setting up a romantic day for the same reward you have received the day before? My Mumzy used to say when I was young,
"We shouldn't give to receive, but give out of happiness to make others we love happy"
With the amount of moaning I heard from certain friends, colleagues and twitter, Mumzy it looks like it doesn't apply anymore. Seeing a look of shock, surprise and joy from your partner recognising your efforts is no longer sufficient reward to justify the effort.
Once upon a time I used to be of thinking
‘every day should be Valentine’s day. I don’t need a special day to show you that I care’
which is true. In reality, how many of you actually treat each day like its Val day? Especially with Val Day having to be the an extravagant affair of affection and treats. Or a better question is how many of you would actually have the time to do so? I personally think it’s exhausting trying to think of new and wonderful ways to show your love all the time. And once you have done them all, what’s next?
I think a better way to look at this is to treat each day like Val Day in the sense you give little gestures to show your other half how special they are without being expected to. It doesn't have to be big things, that would be exhausting. It's the little things that count and its the little things when done at the right time which are always remembered.
I will reiterate again, really making an effort in your daily relationship is the way forward. For those of who are shocked at this statement, it's true. The more effort you make during the year, the less you have to actually do on Val Day. In fact fellas if you make the right amount of effort daily, Val Day becomes all about you. She would use that as an opportunity to reward you for your efforts. The guys who have to go all out are those who don't step up in the relationship during the year. Val Day becomes the day you make up for your slacking, hence the big gestures being expected.
Special provisions are already in place for anniversaries, b’days and Christmas. They are there to celebrate the beginnings and continuance of important events. Anniversaries celebrate when the relationship started and its continuance, Christmas covers Jesus's birthday and your birthday covers your life. That’s standard. Trust me it's in the bible somewhere...
"And the Lord said 'Thou shalt not forget anniversaries, the birth of your wife lest he feel her wrath..." And we all know the saying about a woman scorned...
Of course this does not apply to everyone. Most of you out there put in the required effort to make the other half happy.On the flip side, if they don't appreciate it, then boi...you need to have a good long look at your at your situation because that's not cool.
Until next time
Stay MsChiVious
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